So youre engaged and youve got a wedding to plan. There are a lot of traditions revolving around weddings, which ones will you include in yours? Would it help to know how some of those traditions got started?
The wedding dress is one of the most prominent traditions. Often white to symbolize purity, the tradition is believed to have been started by Queen Victoria, a noteable killjoy in the not-so-distant past. In fact women previously had traditionally worn gowns that were bright and colorful to signify, of course, that your wedding day is supposed to be one of the happiest days of your life. Bright blue (or insert your own favorite color) does a better job communicating joy and excitement than white. So, while many women will choose the white dress simply because the tradition is so ingrained in our society by now, know that you do have another option and its an even older tradition.
To complement your perfect dress youll almost certainly want the perfect veil. Not all women agree on the length or style -- some prefer long veils while others like short ones, some like the simple look while others want it to be ornate -- but most agree the veil is almost as important as the dress. Traditionally, the bride wears her veil down until the couple is officially married at the end of the ceremony, a tradition that has its origins in the belief that the veil provided protection against evil spirits, but even this is becoming less common these days as some brides choose to have their father lift the veil before giving her away.
In ancient Rome the kissing of the bride and groom at the end of the ceremony actually served to "seal the deal" literally, as a legally binding contract between the couple. Even betrothals were officially not-yet-official unless sealed with a kiss. Okay, so this one is a no-brainer, youre leaving this tradition in -- but still the history behind it, as with many of the other wedding traditions, is fascinating.
It is traditional for a woman to walk down the aisle to stand next to her fianc. Traditionally a father has walked his daughter down the aisle. In modern times some women are having their mother walk them down the aisle as well and having both her mother and father give her away. If a father is not able to walk a woman down the isle, she often has another family member or even a close friend. The origins of this tradition are not well-established, it has been with us for many centuries.In my research this was one of the few traditions I could not discover a well-established origin for.
Most couples have the ring presentation at their wedding. The man slips the wedding band on the womans finger and she does the same with his ring. Wedding rings are to be work as a symbol of everlasting love. The circle should never be unbroken. Today much time and thought is often put into the selection of the wedding bands. Wedding bands have been around for a long time. They were first made of grass that was braided or made with hemp. Diamonds that could be found in wedding bands came roughly around the 1400s.
Rice was traditionally showered over the newly-weds just after the ceremony because it is a symbol of fertility, and of course all the older relatives want the newlywed couple to start having kids! Often people will substitute birdseed or wedding bubbles these days because it is widely believed that if birds eat the rice, their stomachs will explode. This is patently false, but that is another story altogether.
Some traditions just start because someone had an idea and everyone else liked it. Case-in-point, the first dance by the couple as their wedding reception begins, as well as the traditional father-daughter dance and -- more and more these days -- the mother and son dance. Because men believe they should be equal :)
Another common tradition at the reception is when the new bride throws her bouquet. This is just done for fun although the woman who catches the flowers is to be the next to marry. This tradition has an interesting history that can be traced to England. Long ago in England guests at a wedding would try to get the womans flowers or part of her clothes. This was to be their way of sharing in the joy. It got to be so bad that a woman would run away from guests and would toss her flowers to try to get them happy and away from her as she ran.
A wedding would not be complete without the cutting of the wedding cake. In the olden days cakes made of wheat would be broken apart above the head of a bride. This was to bring the couple fertility as well as good luck. Traditionally, wedding cakes are tiered. A baker in England started baking these cakes which date all the way back to the time of King Charles II.
Weddings certainly do not need to be traditional. Traditions vary among different cultures and even different families. However, it is often fun to implement some of the traditions into a wedding. These traditions may not really bring good luck, but then again maybe they will.
