Planning for a Second Marriage Ceremony
Feeling guilty or awkward because you are marrying for
the second time? Dont. There is something about the second time to be thankful
for. Perhaps its because the pressure of the first time is off. Or perhaps its
because you are a bit older. Whatever the reason though, second time around can
be much more enjoyable than the first.
Sometimes the second time around is the charm. A recent
study by the U.S. Census Bureau found that 54 percent of divorced women remarry
within 5 years and 75 percent within 10 years. Some questions can often arise
regarding wedding etiquette in second marriages. Can you have a shower? What do
you wear? What about the ceremony, should it be different? Here are some quick
tips to maintaining etiquette surrounding your special day:
The Bridal Shower(s) It is okay for second brides to
have bridal showers. However, there are some limitations regarding who to
invite and registering. Invitees should only be invited wedding guests, and
they should not be those who attended the first wedding. If there are people
invited to the second wedding that attended the first, they should not be
expected to bring a gift. You should register, as it helps guests know what to
buy, but any gifts should be lifestyle related and not expensive.
The Ceremony Some second brides think that they cannot
have a second religious ceremony, but often churches will perform second
wedding ceremonies. Many couples, though, choose a civil ceremony. Other
considerations need to be made for family members, like children, to determine
who will walk the bride down the aisle, and what part they want to play in the
ceremony. The only major "dont" when it comes to second weddings is that the
bride or groom should not have the ceremony and/or reception in the same place
where the first wedding occurred.
The Dress There is still debate as to whether or not a
second-time bride should wear a white dress. There is no one resounding
opinion, so it really depends on what you see as the symbol of a white dress.
Those that see the white dress as a symbol of virginity and purity should
probably avoid white. However, many people today associate white with joy and
happiness, so they may opt for white.
Like with a first wedding ceremony, the dress should
reflect the personality of the bride and flatter her figure. A veil can be worn
by a second-time bride, but a blusher veil should be avoided as it is only
appropriate for first-time brides. Instead hats, hair ornaments, flowers, or
even cascading veils are appropriate.
Second weddings are becoming more commonplace today, and
there are fewer and fewer limitations for couples giving marriage a second
go-around. Second-time weddings are actually easier for brides and grooms to
plan, because they already have some planning experience.